11/11/2013 by Siddiqui Fayesal
Ever wanted a Man Friday? Someone you could depend upon in the most dire of situations. Someone who you would be sure of having your back at all times?
I think we all want a friend, a partner, a buddy, a second, whatever name you call him by, and we want him by our side. We’d want him to be at our beck and call although it wouldn’t seem like that. A perfectly symbiotic relationship is something we probably dream of all the time. A situation where we’d be there, standing in gore, with a scythe in one hand and a bazooka in another to defend the honour and to respect the all encompassing essence of your mate. For you know, and you know it well, that come what may you’d be given the same honour in return. Not because he wants to return the favour but solely because that’s what they’re for.
I’m not talking about a boyfriend/girlfriend, a wife or a someone with whom you have passionate sex with. It’s a little difficult to explain. So I have decided that I will write a series of my favourites, in no particular order, when it comes to comradeship between two men. I’m not leaving out brother(sister)hood between two girls not because I think it doesn’t exist but because I’m not thinking of sisterhood right now. Also, by saying this I’m making a big big statement, I think the most basic of women’s nature is to mother. They’re caring and passionate in their most inherent functionality. So it’s not difficult to imagine two girls loving each other with the ardour and passion, nothing sexual I swear, reserved for a utopian world. I can very well imagine girls like that. I can. Really.
But it is a little difficult to find such men who love each other like that. Behind the macho facade that they hide behind is a human heart. It doesn’t mean that Brutus wants to make love to Cassius when he told him that he loved him. How many men say this to their comrades today? Without going into the insane phlegm inducing and bat shit crazy the world that has become and associate “Love” with only “Sex” I’m gonna write about 3 (I’ll add more when it strikes me) such friendships that made me want to write! 6 guy who made me want to dig deeper an find out what made them click and like each other in this manner.
It might not only be loving. But, perhaps only about respect! But doling that kind of respect for another man on an everyday basis is something that I would like to know!
The list is not exhaustive. I just suddenly thought of them. All 3 are from main stream fiction and one WILL recognise there is a certain slope to their relationship. For some reason I have never seen them as equals. One of them is always at a higher pedestal than the other. Be it in class, in wealth, in social stature or in mere residual mannerism. Its not that it makes a difference but why, I am wondering still, have I never come across a couple so strong and so perfect and so equal. I suppose, and I’m supposing BIG time here, that the inequality brings out their love more beautifully. Perhaps the writers wanted to bring out the unconditionality of their affection for each other in a more pronounced form.
I’m wondering if I should give out their names…
Hmm. Nope. I’ll keep ’em with me for now.